A few years ago, I was invited on a date by a young man he was very attractive, so it was easy to say yes. He had invited me to the movies, and I love the movies. I remember calling my best friend and sharing with her the excitement I had that he had asked me out. I was on cloud nine because not only was he attractive, but he was also popular and at that age it felt good to show the girls that he chose me.
My makeup was slaying, and my outfit was on point and ready to go. I called him to let him know that I was leaving home because we were both getting there separately. To my surprise I arrived there before him so he asked if I could grab the tickets. I didn’t find this to be strange because he was running late, and the show was a popular one so that meant seats were going quickly.
Finally, he arrived, and we walked in together, when I got inside, I told him I wanted to get something to eat so we joined the food cue. While standing in the line I kept thinking to myself is he going to give me the money back for the tickets? I didn’t want to ask because I felt like that would have made the night weird, so I waited patiently for him to give me.
It’s our turn to order and he begins to order himself a hotdog, popcorn and drink I ordered the same. Now the cashier reaches for the money, and I saw him stepped back and waited for me to pay I was furious! However, I kept my composure and I paid, meanwhile he was trying to form a conversation and I kept recapping the night’s events like “is he for real, this must be a prank”.
We got to our seats, and we watched the movie but my interest was completely gone I was so turned off by his actions I couldn’t wait for the movie to end so I could leave. Finally, it ended and as we were walking out the movie theatre, then he says to me “do you mind taking me to the bus stop because I think I am going to miss the last bus” I tried super hard to keep my facial expressions under control because I am screaming in mind like this guy!
Nevertheless, being too nice of a person I said to him sure, I thought he meant the bus stop that was closer to where we were but as we started driving, he said to me “I think the bus stop by the airport would be better as it would give me more time to get the bus”.
I was speechless at this point and could not wait to get him out of my car. I dropped him off and he got the bus just in time, when he got in, he called to say he got home safely and thanked me for the night. I responded with you are welcome and have a goodnight. That was the last time we spoke. Should he pay for our first date absolutely, YES especially if he invites you out.
Written by Kimisha King
Barbados
Wow!!! That was so immature on his part…. but the step back when we order food?? You’re different to me because i wouldve told the cashier we aren’t together and leave him there.
But yes I agree the man should pay for the first date -especially if he’s the one who invited you out.
Lol I thought about it, but I think I was in so much shock that he didn’t pay or made any efforts to pay. Even if he said to me, I would cover the tickets could you cover the food i probably would have said okay.
Kimisha, you handle that situation with so much grace. I would like to ask if the guy was in a position to pay. I am thinking that he wanted to go out with you but could not afford it but when he ordered food for himself that spoke volumes about him. Maybe he should have bought something for you since you paid for the tickets. I believe that if a guy invites you out – he should pay the bill full stop.
I thought he was based on his small business, we were both teenagers but the least he could have done was to come with some money. Seems like he only walked with bus fare lol.
Seems like he was of the opinion that if he goes out with you, you should pay..but i do agree he should pay for the first date once he gives the invitation.
Unbelievable! If he ask you out yes he should pay.